Don’t Fear the Spark Within You

INFJs are no stranger to broken hearts. A personality with a strongly held sense of idealism and a thirst for justice and equality living in this world is a personality that will always be a little bit heartbroken.

Underlying our quiet exterior, empathy and agreeable nature is a dangerous passion. Passion is what drives our pursuit of a more perfect world. It gives us something to live for. It keeps us up at night. It is a calling toward self-sacrifice and, if we’re not careful, significant self-neglect. Continue reading

When You Come to a Fork In the Road, Take It

Three months ago I decided to leave my firm job three months from now. The clock is ticking with no new job in sight. I’m afraid. I’m stressed. I’m worried that nothing will work out.

I don’t regret trying firm life. It wasn’t a good match. So be it.

I do, however, regret giving in to my paralyzing fears about quitting. I regret staying much longer than I should have. It took a long time to make peace with not being able to make it work. But it hasn’t been working. It’s never worked.

I’m ready to move on.

But what the hell I am supposed to do with myself now? Continue reading

Getting (No)Things Done

I am obsessed with productivity. Obsessed.

I started spending tons of time worrying about the art of getting things done when I got to law school. By the middle of the first semester, I had completely lost my motivation in life, my raison d’etre. I was devastated. I didn’t know who I was.

Who was this unproductive person inhabiting my body? When had I become completely disengaged?

As I imagine many of us do, I started looking outside of myself for answers to the question of how to make something of myself — how to GTD. I started trying to find that perfect technique or system that would help me to “grow up” and get things done.
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Does Wanting to Do What You Love Make You a Narcissist?

A common refrain among INFJs, HSPs and Gen Y’rs generally is this idea of seeking out meaningful, fulfilling work. What do these words even mean?

Meaningful. adj. 1. having meaning. 2. having a serious, important or useful quality or purpose.

Fulfilling. adj. 1. making someone satisfied or happy because of fully developing their character or abilities.

This Girl’s Search For Meaning

I fall into all three buckets (INFJ, HSP, Gen Y) and I am constantly on some kind of quest for “right.” The right job, place to live or way to be. Still, regardless of the doubts I have about my career — even those based in value judgments — I often feel compelled to grin and bear it because of intense guilt.

I am privileged to live the life I lead and I don’t want to take that for granted.

Do What You Love: The Common Refrain of Unchecked Privilege?

So of course it didn’t help at all when I came across this Slate article yesterday by Miya Tokumitsu. “There’s little doubt that ‘do what you love’ (DWYL) is now the unofficial work mantra for our time,” Tokumitsu says. “The problem with DWYL, however, is that it leads not to salvation but to the devaluation of actual work—and more importantly, the dehumanization of the vast majority of laborers.” Every so often, even I forget to take a look at the big picture. This article was a painful reminder. Continue reading