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I Quit Law … For Now

Today is the first day of the rest of my life.

It’s a cliche that really takes me back. I’m talking way back. I can see myself gleeful in my graduation gowns: high school. college. law school?

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Wow, my hair was SO straight! And short!

Law school graduation was a strange day for me. I was proud of what I had accomplished. I was tearing up because it had been such an ordeal.

Six months ago I decided I’d had enough. I didn’t know what would come next or where I was going, but it was one of those “you don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here” moments. I knew that my time in the firm had to end. Continue reading

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You Can’t Do Everything. So What?

Perfectionism breeds terrible self talk habits. You go from berating and belittling yourself for being imperfect to punishing yourself for being imperfect by imposing standards even a perfect person couldn’t live up to.

Then of course you kill yourself trying to meet or exceed the new standards. If you can reach the bar you know it’s time to raise it. Perfectionists push themselves with no regard for their limitations, sensitivities or weaknesses. You have something to prove. You’re never comfortable with your flaws.

If you’re a sensitive person and a perfectionist, next thing you know you’re nursing a cold and a migraine just waiting to lash out at the next person who dares to ask you a simple question when you feel like shit.

I went on like this for years. I rapidly cycled between superhuman overachiever and burnt out slacker — sometimes within a week. It was killing me. Continue reading

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Can Marie Kondo Help Sensitive Souls Thrive?

2016-02-25 09.43.57Like many folks in the U.S. last year, I quickly jumped on the  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up bandwagon. I found myself watching YouTuber after YouTuber talking about how they’d reorganized their life after reading the book.

I’ve always had a bit of split personality on these matters.

On one hand, as a child, I was so messy that you often couldn’t find the floor (I once read and agreed with a quote from Shia Labeouf stating that the floor is the single largest shelf in a home). On the other hand, when my mom came into my room, put all of my clothes in a pile and told me that whatever was on the floor when she came back would be donated I suddenly created a space fit for HGTV. I was always very good at cleaning. And I love a good purge. It’s my favorite means of catharsis. Continue reading

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Don’t Fear the Spark Within You

INFJs are no stranger to broken hearts. A personality with a strongly held sense of idealism and a thirst for justice and equality living in this world is a personality that will always be a little bit heartbroken.

Underlying our quiet exterior, empathy and agreeable nature is a dangerous passion. Passion is what drives our pursuit of a more perfect world. It gives us something to live for. It keeps us up at night. It is a calling toward self-sacrifice and, if we’re not careful, significant self-neglect. Continue reading

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Two Ways To Pick Your Capsule Wardrobe Color Scheme

As discussed in Part I and Part II, creating a capsule wardrobe was a lot of work on the front end, but has resulted in significantly reducing my stress over the long haul. Now with a well curated closet, choosing an outfit is nearly a no-brainer and I love everything in my closet.

Figuring out my body type was the most important part, but picking the right colors really brought everything together.

The Right Colors Can Make or Break Your Picks

The next step for me was learning about colors. I had instinctively always shied away from pastels and other colors that I believed “weren’t committed” to their existence. I didn’t like patterns, but my colors had to be bold. Soon I discovered Seasonal Color Analysis and later stumbled upon Seasonal Color Analysis for Women of Color. Continue reading